PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Is that really important to be a good looking person so as to be able to catch someone’s eye?

I will be lying if I say “the way of looking is not important” because is not true at all, actually is the first thing that makes us feel attracted to a person. But as soon as we start spending time with a buy or a girl the physical appearance will be located on a second place because we will find another qualities like their attitude, their intelligence, their goals, their personality, their feelings, their thoughts, etc.

So after being thinking about a question related with this topic I can say that I really don’t see any problem to be attracted to a person that is not pretty good looking because at the end a person is define by their inners and not by their beauty.

So date the person you want to know, the person you want to be with, just take into consideration what is more important for you and what makes you feel more comfortable.

I want to finish this post writing something that I read long time ago “Only brave and big hearts will be able to see and will be able to understand that beauty is not in the face, beauty is a light in the heart”.

HOW CAN YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART?

I´m sure a lot of people had heard that question at least one time, and I´m sure you had heard different suggestions about the way you can mend it. I know sometimes is really difficult to give a good answer because people feel in a different way and besides that, you don´t know how big is the hurt people have on their hearts.

Today on a TV program I heard an intelligent and a true answer: "You can not say that a heart is broken because you are alive. But you can find confused hearts, afraid hearts, wistful hearts and wounded hearts, in those cases time will be the most important in helping hearts to feel much better".

It does not matter how big was the wound in your heart, you should give you the oportunity to love and to live again.

MUSIC

Music is an art converted in aesthetic experiences that can express feelings, circumstances, thoughts or ideas.

Music is one of the great pleasures that can exist, is incredible the effects that a good lyrics, music or interpretation can cause, not only in events of daily life but also in memories that we have kept in our mind.

Yesterday I listened to several songs I haven´t heard in a while, and it was great to bring back memories of love, lack of affection, happiness and melancholy I have lived. Also I remembered some singers they used to make me drool. Even I have to confess that although some years have passed, certain green eyes continue making me sigh.

Definitive, I love music.

COMMENTS

This time I want to talk about two interesting blogs I found:

The first one is called "De perfumes..." and I agree with the person who wrote that blog because in my case a nice smell has a big impact on me, for example I remember that couple weeks ago I was in the subway and suddenly I perceived the smell of my favorite male perfume the which one that makes me remember a guy, and despite the subway was crowded it was incredible that my nose could identify so easy the owner of that smell.

The second blog is called: "De lo romántico a la razón", this one talks about human odor and it effects on choosing a couple, and it was really incredible to find that if you have a genetic compatibility with a person the odor will be unpleasant for you and he says the reason of this effect is that you look for a person with a different genetic immunity.

If you have some time, you should read both blogs, because they are really interesting.

I´m kind of new on this things so if you want to read the complete blogs here you can find them:
http://vidaenfacil.blogspot.com/
http://ozhomatli-pachon.blogspot.com/

CHILDREN

Yesterday after a stressful day, a three years old girl with her tenderness and her ideas made feel really better.

I started thinking that despite children are small and defenseless they have a lot of wisdom, because they make you understand in thousand forms that there are so many things to be happy with. Also I saw that children have a big capacity to love and with their innocent look they are able to transmit all happiness, honesty and sincerity they keep on their heart.

I think that the most important lesson they can give us is that is possible to live without hatred and resentment.

TO START AGAIN

Sometimes we believe that we have found the right person, but unfortunately the life makes you see that is not true and you have to start again. This time I want to find a person who doesn’t laugh and who doesn´t show indiference to my feelings, a person who doesn´t see tenderness like a weakness, a person who doesn’t feel fear to love, a person who can not be selfish, a person who can define what he wants and what he feels, a person who has the worth to say “I love you” or “I miss you”, mainly I’m looking for a person who is looking for me in the way I am.

YOU LEARN

After a while, you learn the subtle diference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

You learn that love doesn’t mean sex, and that a company doesn’t mean security. And you begin to learn. That kisses are not contracts and presents are not promises and you begin to accept your defeats with head high and with eyes open.

And you learn to build all your roads of today, because tomorrow´s ground is to uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in pieces. After a while your learn that even sunshine burns if you get to much.

You plant your own garden and you decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for some one to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong and that you really have a worth, and you learn and learn.

With time you learn that to be with some one who offers you a good future, means that sooner or later you will want to go back to your past. With time you understand that only who is able to love you with your defects and without trying to change you, will be able to give you all the happiness you wish.

With time you find out that if you are at the side of that person just so as to accompany your loneliness, irremediably you will finish hoping not to see him/her again. With time you understand that true friends are counted, and who doesn´t fight for them sooner or later will see himself surrounded by false friends.

With time also you learn that words said in a moment of anger will continue hurting the one you hurt during all his/her life. With time you learn that to say I´m sorry anybody does it, but to forgive is only done by great souls.

With time you figure out that although you are happy with your friends, someday you will cry for those ones you let go. With time you figure out that every experience you have lived is unique.

With time you figure out that the person who humiliates and despises to a human being, sooner or later he/she will suffer the same humiliations or scorns multiplied by two. With time you figure out that to hurry or to force things to happen, will cause that at the end they were not as you expected.

With time you figure out that in reality the future was not the best, if not the instant moment you were living. With time you will see that although you are happy with the ones you have at your side, you will miss the ones that yesterday were with you, but they have gone.

With time you will learn that try to forgive or to ask for forgiveness, say that you love, say that you miss, say that you need, say that you want to be a friend, infront of a tomb, has no sense.

But unfortunately, only with time.

"Written by Jorge Luis Borges"